Kinky and Sexuality

What is Kinky?

The subject of kinky is a broad concept and it actually stands for everything that has to do with BDSM, fantasies/fetish and/or role play. It is therefore a very extensive term used for convenience to indicate these preferences.

Kink and kinky are mainly about discovering new things and pushing boundaries together with someone else. It is therefore a very intimate and exciting 'game' where you are evenly matched. Respect is very important and especially when tying up or blindfolding is involved, it is important that you can trust each other. When you cross someone's boundaries, it can have a very unpleasant aftertaste for that person and that is not the intention at all. Although this world is all about submission and dominance, it is important to agree on a safe word to prevent this.

What types of kinky sex are there?

There are many different variations of kinky sex. You may immediately think of a mistress and a slave, but this is the most cliché example that exists. There are endless possibilities in the kinky field and we try to list them all.

1. BDSM

   Everyone is familiar with SM and this is only a small part of a much larger concept. BDSM is a form of kinky where there is a clear division of roles, the dominant role and the submissive role. It is an abbreviation for the following three categories:
   
   Bondage & Discipline
   Dominance & Submission
   Sadism & Masochism
   
   Before you start with BDSM, it is important to agree with your partner who is dominant and who takes the submissive role. You can change roles if necessary, but often there is a fixed DOM or SUB. You can take on this role during the game, but there are also couples who make this a lifestyle. So it can be a sexual role play, but it can certainly also be a mental game.
   
   You can read on if you want to know more about BDSM.
   
   

2. Bondage

   You can apply bondage in different ways and it can fall under soft kinky, but there are also extreme variants of bondage. Many couples find it an exciting addition as foreplay during sex. For bondage you can use different equipment such as handcuffs or rope, but if you have to improvise just use a noose or a piece of clothing. Make sure you always have something on hand to loosen up your partner.
   
   There are different ways to tie someone up. You can tie someone's hands, but this way your partner still has a lot of freedom of movement. By tying someone to the bed, for example, you make it a lot more difficult to move. When your partner is tied up you have full control and can tease, spoil and drive him/her crazy. You can use toys and find out what he/she likes.
   
   Extreme bondage In addition to soft bondage, there is also an extreme form of bondage and this is really only for the experts. Certain techniques are required to tie ropes and this requires a lot of experience. You cannot just start  with hardcore bondage, especially consider the safety of your partner or your own. To learn more about this topic you can read the blog about bondage.
   
   

3. Role Play

   This is the most accessible way to add more excitement to your sex life. Because you don't need any attributes for this, role-playing is possible at any time.There are hundreds of different scenarios possible during a role-playing game. You can do this at home, but this can also take an exciting turn outdoors.
   
   It's a good way to gain more self-confidence by occasionally role-playing with your partner.Let your imagination run wild and discover your partner's naughty fantasies this way. Some examples to try with your partner
   
   The cheating scenario
   In this role play, you and your partner pretend you don't know each other. For example, you can go to a bar separately and start flirting with each other. Pretend it's the first time you've met and start the game of seduction. This will give your relationship a good boost and make you realize why you fell for each other.
   
   

   The handyman
   We are all familiar with this scenario, your partner knocks/rings the doorbell and comes to help you with some chores. Whether it is in the kitchen, the bathroom, the toilet... you try to seduce him and of course you would like to pay in kind for his services.

   A role-playing game is the only game that does not require any rules. You can come up with these all by yourself and there are no limits. Of course, make sure you agree with your partner about the division of roles!
   
   

4. Fetish

   Fetish and kinky are often directly linked. When we think of fetishes, we often immediately think of leather clothing, BDSM or a foot fetish, but there are many different options in this area. There are many special well-known and lesser-known variants worldwide. We have listed a few of the most unusual/special fetishes for you.
   
   

   Eproctophilia - Fart fetish

   This is a special fetish that most people don't want to know about. An eproctophile is someone who gets turned on by someone who farts. 'The only' research into eproctophilia shows that these people are not so much attracted to the fart itself, but rather to the person who farts.
   
   

   Dacryphilia - Crying fetish

   Imagine being turned on by someone else's tears. This is called Dacryphilia and you have two different ways of being attracted to tears.

   The first is a mean way where a dacryphile wants to make someone cry, this person is very dominant and sadistic. The other way is that someone gets turned on by someone who is emotional. Try comforting someone when you're horny...

    

   Formicophilia - Insect fetish

   While we get terribly tickled, for a formicophile the tickling of insects is very exciting. Touching insects or invertebrates is a real pleasure for these people.

   Snails crawling on intimate parts of the body, stinging insects or even stinging ants... these are things that are considered arousing in formicophilia.

   Everyone has a fetish

   A fetish is a certain 'trigger' that makes someone sexually aroused. This can be anything and there are hundreds of different fetishes, so it is not surprising that you are aroused by certain items of clothing or even specific objects such as balloons. Fun fact... there is even an 'International Fetish Day', and we always celebrate this special day on the third Friday of January.